So here this post is on special demand, related to my earlier post "Does he deserve your tears?". As one of my guy friend found it too feminist, so he requested me to write from a guy's point of view also. Opinion will always differ but I have observed this to be pretty true.
I know it is not easy and one of the most painful things I am telling you do. How can one forget all the memories and happy time spent with his lover. But every break up has a reason, may be the reason is for your good only. Try to understand that reason rather than crying over things. Take it practically. You are a man, you need to be strong. Crying is not your cup of tea, keep it for girls only!
If the girl doesn't love you now, it is not your fault. It is her fault. So why are you going through all the pain? Be happy that you were true in your relationship, and it hasn't ended from your side. Guys approach towards breakup is entirely different from that of girls.
Girls cry, tell every single person about their break up, gain sympathy. On the other hand, Guys enjoy the initial period of break up. They feel happy and free. They just drink, smoke, "bitch" about their ex-partner in cheap Hindi Gallis. This goes for a week or so and eventually they come to know, this is not going to work. And the period of frustrations begins, where they drink to forget the pain of break up, they smoke, maybe go on drugs too, because that is the Indian mentality on break up. Make yourself as vulnerable as you can!
As the week passes they know even this is not going to work, so they start trying on their ex-partner again.
I have seen guys become stubborn at this point. They anyhow want their ex-partner to return to them. They forget all the love, all the respect, and they keep stalking their ex-partner. And if she is with some other guys they can't see it and try all possible ways to efface that guy from her life. Why do you care? Now when you are separated, let her live her life. Just because you can't live your life happily that doesn't mean you won't let others live. Why does a girl matter you this much? You have been single since your childhood! Can't you be single now?
You are just being desperate about love. And remember this, love and girls never come to desperate guys! "GET A LIFE, DUDE!". At some or the other point you will get someone who will love you completely, and maybe your ex-partner was not the one! Try to understand it. Don't let a breakup make you weak, instead it should make you a better person.
Do things which are adventurous. Now when you are single you have all the time to spend with you. Why don't you utilize it in doing something you like. Break up gives you a new life. Try to build your new life with new happiness, live it for yourself! Besides, you also have license to date any girl now. So, go date a girl, this is the best way to make your ex-partner feel jealous. And believe me someday you will get that girl who will give you the awesome feeling of love. Till then keep going with your life. (:
Yes so it does hurt guys as much as it hurts a girl. We girl thinks that only we have emotions, but guys are weaker when it comes to emotions! They can't bear the pain of breakup as well. And if girls think guys don't cry when they have broken up, they are extremely wrong. I have seen guys crying badly in front of me for the girl they love. But same question arises for you to, "Does she deserve your tears??".
The answer is NO. I know the frustrations and the pain of losing her is ruining your life. She was the one you thought, will be with you all your lifetime. You made it very clear in your mind, that you will stick with that one girl only. You have seen a wonderful future with her. But now when she is out of your life and she doesn't feel the same for you, why don't you just let it go!
I know it is not easy and one of the most painful things I am telling you do. How can one forget all the memories and happy time spent with his lover. But every break up has a reason, may be the reason is for your good only. Try to understand that reason rather than crying over things. Take it practically. You are a man, you need to be strong. Crying is not your cup of tea, keep it for girls only!
If the girl doesn't love you now, it is not your fault. It is her fault. So why are you going through all the pain? Be happy that you were true in your relationship, and it hasn't ended from your side. Guys approach towards breakup is entirely different from that of girls.
Girls cry, tell every single person about their break up, gain sympathy. On the other hand, Guys enjoy the initial period of break up. They feel happy and free. They just drink, smoke, "bitch" about their ex-partner in cheap Hindi Gallis. This goes for a week or so and eventually they come to know, this is not going to work. And the period of frustrations begins, where they drink to forget the pain of break up, they smoke, maybe go on drugs too, because that is the Indian mentality on break up. Make yourself as vulnerable as you can!
As the week passes they know even this is not going to work, so they start trying on their ex-partner again.
I have seen guys become stubborn at this point. They anyhow want their ex-partner to return to them. They forget all the love, all the respect, and they keep stalking their ex-partner. And if she is with some other guys they can't see it and try all possible ways to efface that guy from her life. Why do you care? Now when you are separated, let her live her life. Just because you can't live your life happily that doesn't mean you won't let others live. Why does a girl matter you this much? You have been single since your childhood! Can't you be single now?
You are just being desperate about love. And remember this, love and girls never come to desperate guys! "GET A LIFE, DUDE!". At some or the other point you will get someone who will love you completely, and maybe your ex-partner was not the one! Try to understand it. Don't let a breakup make you weak, instead it should make you a better person.
Do things which are adventurous. Now when you are single you have all the time to spend with you. Why don't you utilize it in doing something you like. Break up gives you a new life. Try to build your new life with new happiness, live it for yourself! Besides, you also have license to date any girl now. So, go date a girl, this is the best way to make your ex-partner feel jealous. And believe me someday you will get that girl who will give you the awesome feeling of love. Till then keep going with your life. (: