Does she deserve your Tears?

So here this post is on special demand, related to my earlier post "Does he deserve your tears?". As one of my guy friend found it too feminist, so he requested me to write from a guy's point of view also. Opinion will always differ but I have observed this to be pretty true.

Yes so it does hurt guys as much as it hurts a girl. We girl thinks that only we have emotions, but guys are weaker when it comes to emotions! They can't bear the pain of breakup as well. And if girls think guys don't cry when they have broken up, they are extremely wrong. I have seen guys crying badly in front of me for the girl they love. But same question arises for you to, "Does she deserve your tears??".

The answer is NO. I know the frustrations and the pain of losing her is ruining your life. She was the one you thought, will be with you all your lifetime. You made it very clear in your mind, that you will stick with that one girl only. You have seen a wonderful future with her. But now when she is out of your life and she doesn't feel the same for you, why don't you just let it go!

I know it is not easy and one of the most painful things I am telling you do. How can one forget all the memories and happy time spent with his lover. But every break up has a reason, may be the reason is for your good only. Try to understand that reason rather than crying over things. Take it practically. You are a man, you need to be strong. Crying is not your cup of tea, keep it for girls only!

If the girl doesn't love you now, it is not your fault. It is her fault. So why are you going through all the pain? Be happy that you were true in your relationship, and it hasn't ended from your side. Guys approach towards breakup is entirely different from that of girls. 


Girls cry, tell every single person about their break up, gain sympathy. On the other hand, Guys enjoy the initial period of break up. They feel happy and free. They just drink, smoke, "bitch" about their ex-partner in cheap Hindi Gallis. This goes for a week or so and eventually they come to know, this is not going to work. And the period of frustrations begins, where they drink to forget the pain of break up, they smoke, maybe go on drugs too, because that is the Indian mentality on break up. Make yourself as vulnerable as you can!


As the week passes they know even this is not going to work, so they start trying on their ex-partner again.

I have seen guys become stubborn at this point. They anyhow want their ex-partner to return to them. They forget all the love, all the respect, and they keep stalking their ex-partner. And if she is with some other guys they can't see it and try all possible ways to efface that guy from her life. Why do you care? Now when you are separated, let her live her life. Just because you can't live your life happily that doesn't mean you won't let others live. Why does a girl matter you this much? You have been single since your childhood! Can't you be single now?


You are just being desperate about love. And remember this, love and girls never come to desperate guys! "GET A LIFE, DUDE!". At some or the other point you will get someone who will love you completely, and maybe your ex-partner was not the one! Try to understand it. Don't let a breakup make you weak, instead it should make you a better person.


Do things which are adventurous. Now when you are single you have all the time to spend with you. Why don't you utilize it in doing something you like. Break up gives you a new life. Try to build your new life with new happiness, live it for yourself! Besides, you also have license to date any girl now. So, go date a girl, this is the best way to make your ex-partner feel jealous. And believe me someday you will get that girl who will give you the awesome feeling of love. Till then keep going with your life. (:

Does he deserve your Tears?

Yes, Break up do hurt. And crying in pain is a normal thing. When you break up, your whole identity is shattered. It's like death. The grief and sadness caused by a break up can seem absolutely overwhelming and make you feel like you will never get over the pain. But do you think a person who left you in the half path deserve your tears?

I mean yeah, it almost seems unimaginable to stop thinking about your ex-partner and all the things you have done together. The history, memories and the times shared refused to escape your mind after a break up. But is crying is a solution to your problem? More you cry, more you make it hard for yourself. And why to cry for a person who is not there to wipe off your tears??

Love doesn't hurt, its the memories that hurt you. You give so much importance to that one person in your life that basically you start living a life they want. But now when you are alone why can't you live it for yourself? If someone stops liking you, you can do nothing about that. So better to live with Pride. Make him realize you are better without him. 

Move on is the only option you have! Move on doesn't mean to get commit to other person. But at least try to get commit with your life now. If you don't care about yourself, nobody will. The first thing everyone should learn is to love themselves deeply. Now when you are single, it is just your life. No sharing you have to do with anyone. That means, you can live the way you want! Isn't it great?? Whatever has transpired in the past has happened, but the future after the break up is in your hands.

You, yourself makes things difficult. You know what makes you happy, still you like your vulnerable condition. And I don't know why do people like crying all the time. You have spent some cherished moments with him. Why don't you remember that?? Rather than being sad for what is over, just be glad that it was once yours. Things are never hard to do, we make them complicated. Yes, the memories never go but it fades as the time passes.

Make yourself so strong that nothing related to him affects you. Not even his NAME! For you love hasn't gone,it was he who left the love and went away, then why are you affected by his name or whatever he do?? If it is really his fault, he will ping you all his life just to see your reactions. This should only make you happy that he is still running behind you. The reason he is doing this is that  he wants to do friendship again and settle every matter and make you clear his reasons or else he might be somewhere guilty for his doing. I know forgiving him is not easy. But I would advise, you have to forgive to forget, and forget, to feel again. You can't sit all your life with the pain. It will take time but eventually you will move on!

Sometimes you realize the breakup may have been for the better, but many times you didn't even want the break up to happen in the first place. But love doesn't come with guarantee and warranty. And you can do nothing if the person fell out of love. It could be you also. Just because it is you who is suffering, you feel like Saint! 

I am here to tell you that the situation will work itself out. In time, you will either end up moving on, or get back with your ex-partner. It is certainly not easy, but I promise one of the two will happen! Your broken heart may take time to heal, but you will never get through it without your Friends! So talk to them, do things which make you happy, keep yourself busy, be happy and do fall in love again. Give a chance to love! There is always a second chance in life! Why to cry for a moron, when you can laugh with a real man?! (:

URBAN MELODRAMA

Can you leave your love for your best friend ??

Today I watched Cocktail,it follows a basic Bollywood genre-geometry of a love triangle. The story is about a compulsive flirt  Gautam (Saif Ali Khan) who gets into a no-strings-attached relationship with the hot-n-happening Veronica(Deepika Padukone) . To cover up his live-in with Veronica, girl-next-door Meera (Diana Penty) is literally the girl Gautam takes home to his mother. The guy is commitment-phobic until he meets up his match and realizes what 'true love' is. His heart start fluttering for Meera.


So here Gautam and Veronica just hit it off in two scenes. So do Gautam and Meera and if it wasn't the kiss at interval point, one wouldn't know Cupid has cross connected it. So the melodrama started between the love triangle and its ends with one has to sacrifice for the sake of friendship and love. Evidently you know which girl would win in the end. Basically, Cocktail, is a same prose with new grammar.
Eventually my question still remains same 'Can you leave your love for your best friend?'

 My answer is NO!! I mean why would my best friend will try to hit on my Boyfriend? In India, love means commitment. A serious commitment. And dedications. Love is a sensation based on physical and emotional attraction. For girls love is trust, loyalty, honesty, commitment, care, happiness, attachment, responsibilities, possessiveness, jealousy, insecurities, pain, frustrations....and what not! So sharing and compromising with her love is not in her 'love' dictionary. When she falls into a relationship the first thing they do is call her best friends and narrate all the story since they have met to her proposal....everything,every single detail she give about her boyfriend and her relationship to her best friend! Somewhere her best friend has also become a part of her relationship. Her intentions in involving her friend is that whenever she feels low she can seek support from her friend. And when she is hurt her friend can go and fire up her boyfriend,making him realize his mistakes. Same happens with all the girls and even me. After seeing the movie the first thought came to my mind was "If that super best friend of mine is longing for my BF,will I give my love to her so smoothly?" And the second thought that rush to my mind was "I will give death to her." :P

 I will be fighting with her  "The Battle of Love"....and I will try all possible ways to sweep her off. A great friend will eventually turn into a greater foe. Besides, If my boyfriend is also interested in her, both are going to die the same death! Yes, I sound like a bitch. But when it comes to my things "I am a follower of SATAN"..... :D
I was always loyal to my boyfriend and I will try to invest all my love for him. But I can't see him happy with other girl. If breakup takes place due to another reason I will still be happy somewhere but If it take place due to my Best Friend...a feeling of revenge will always be there. And the frustration that will eat up my mind will make me perform all the sins I have never committed. And the rest is 'history'.


So yes the movie portrayed a great friendship but what it ended with, was not  critically accepted. It never happens and such thing will never take place in India where people are so obsessive about their emotions. Things are not so easy in real life as they show in reel life. I appreciate the concept of the movie, but two girls never compromise for the person they love.